Originally Posted By: FaithLOVEHope
I know what you mean it does not matter how much we try it looks like we are not noticed...
I can't believe that we aren't though..they just can't say anything.



I can attest to that not being true - we're noticed. Out S's are just in different states of denial, anger, confusion, etc. that we have to deal with. I didn't think I was being noticed and you know I have practically zero contact with my W. But she said things to me in our last meeting that PROVED she's been watching, hearing things, remembering things, looking for signs, whatever you want to call it. When she'd let her guard down, she'd say things that let me know she was watching.

789, it may have been that your W just wanted to see if you'd GO on the weekend, or go to work. You did the right thing. Yeah, you want your W to give you credit, give you confirmation, give you love for your acts, but she's not ready for that OR is going to run a few more tests before she's ready to let her guard down to you. Who knows?!?!?! You just have to be there for her and your son when the opportunities present themselves and learn patience (yes, join me will you? ). Yep, it sucks. it's not fun, "why can't she just COME BACK NOW?!?!?!?" LOL, I know the feeling, believe me, I know the feeling. It'll all be good in the end, and if you play your cards right, you'll look back at this time and the refiner's fire that created the fantastic marriage you have at that time.

We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.

3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...