I'm starting to wonder if my hope isn't just an unhealthy obsession.
Well, that's easy to tell I think. If you're doing it to KEEP her just for the sake of keeping her. it's unhealthy. If you CAN'T function without her and you obsess, it's not healthy. And I'm not talking about venting here, I'm talking about when you're alone, ALL you can think about is KEEPING her, you need to re-evaluate.
If you're standing for your marriage because you KNOW the two of you and your kids will be better off than you were before, because you're made changes to yourself and you WANT your family to benefit, you're ok.
If you're not doing this for selfish reasons but to be a better man, a better dad, a better husband you're OK.
If you're going to go in and be a doormat JUST to KEEP your W, forget it.
See the difference? Your W is NOT yours to keep. She is an individual that has needs. You can be prepared to provide that if SHE comes to get it. If she doesn't, you have NO control. If you think you do - again, re-evaluate.
Staying positive all the time is impossible in these situations. As good as I feel most of the time now, I still have moments of doubt. I go IMMEDIATELY to God, do not pass Go! do not collect $200, send your heart, mind and soul immediately to God and let him fill the void for you. He will do it, if you seek earnestly and with humility.
I'm right there with you Bro, a lot of us are. Keep it up!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
