Swashy, I think what is important about it, in my opinion (right or wrong and riddled with my own perspective based on my relationship) is that this is a way to help you move forward. Regardless of if you never go out with this woman on an actual date or if you go out on 1-2 dates with her or whatever, this may be one step in helping you accept and move on. I've been reading Crazy Times and Rebuilding lately and they both actually discuss that for some people, it takes getting a spark or glimpse at possibilities out there, before they can move on. Right now, your wife has told you it is over and you are trying to accept that. I think one reason my counselor told me to go out and date men right now (just to have dinners, drinks, coffees or whatever but not get into anything serious) is because I've been lacking attention from the oppositive sex (in a positive way) for a long time and it feels good to get it. Nothing wrong with that if you are happy and confident without it. It also helps you to see that there is life out there after divorce, that there are women out there who you could date, and that they might treat you pretty well (because you haven't been treated so great of recent). It comes down to, your wife told you your marriage is over, the rest is just paperwork. So if you are okay starting to date based on your own beliefs and morals, then do it, by like F21 said think about your boundaries and be proactive in that reflection. This friendship may or may not even take you to a place where your boundaries come into play but good to have them in place first. Be true to you. That is what matters.
Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. -Marcus Aurelius
