"I agreed and told him he was right, it is possible that nothing he does will make me happy but unless we try and work it out we will never know."
WAW,
I know this is hard to hear but i think it is important. No one makes us happy. No one is our happiness or defines our happiness. You have to be happy alone, recognize and identify your needs, learn to communicate them effectively, learn the needs of your spouse and want to love your spouse in the way that he needs to be loved, and then you share your happiness with another and find fulfillment beyond your individual happiness in a relationship with someone. No one has the power to make you happy or truly to make you unhappy. It is all within you. I know that sounds like a load of crap and for a long time I didn't get that and didn't really realize it or understand it but I truly get it now and believe it. You are in control of your happiness. If you want this to get better, I really believe it will. In the end it takes two people to work on the marriage, but so much of your happiness and your needs have nothing to do with your marriage and that is the part to really focus on first. Identify your own needs for happiness (individually) and then your needs from a spouse. Identify your h's needs and how you have done in meeting them and then go from there. The 5 Love Languages is a good book to start with.
You can do this! Also, if you need some positive energy. Read the book The Secret. It's about thinking positively and being grateful for what you have in your life.
I believe in you.
Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. -Marcus Aurelius
