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[waw1978]

Nomopo thanks for the resoponse. To answer your questions, we live in the Boston area.

Yes I have lost attraction to my DH, not because he not attractive. He has recently taken up working out and jogging and is in better shape than ever, lost 40 lbs, doing his hair, dressing better. This in itself is worrisome as it hints at an affair on his part but I have no reasons to suspect that but boy these websites make a person wonder!

It makes me very sad that I cringe at the thought of being itimate with him. Since I do find him attractive I am sure these feelings could/would return if we made progress on the emotional issues. I guess I am the typical woman that one is tied to the other. I have never told him that I have lost the attraction, although we have only been intimate once in over 8 months so I am sure this is no surprise. For the record, I am also very fit and been told I am attractive so its not a situation where I have let myself go or anything.

No I haven't intentionally said anything to test him. Just not my style. Its hard enough getting a response to real statements. I have never told him that there is no hope or that it was over or even that I wanted a divorce. I did say I needed space and we may need a temporary separation in order for me to get over the resentment/anger/frustration and be able to open up again. But I haven't given him false hopes either. He has stated several times that he could be wasting his time trying to make me happy when in the end it might not work. I agreed and told him he was right, it is possible that nothing he does will make me happy but unless we try and work it out we will never know.

I do appreciate all the input. It takes strong people to seek out help in saving their marriage and I applaud you all no matter what side you are on, WAS/LBS.