Wow, the sad thing about it is you can see the destruction ready to happen and your husband's death before it has occured. Let me tell you a few things. I am a guy and your husband is not hearing you at all. He is doing whatever it takes to keep you for now. He thinks you are ultra sensitive and deep down he really thinks things are ok. He is listening a little, but dep down he is thinking that this will blow over. Trust me. This is a cookie cut situation with a little variance. The good (no the great news)! I know your husband loves you so much that he just doesn't realize it. He would cry for months if he lost you. He WILL do everything you ask if he would just f*king wake up!!!! You are the woman of his dreams and he wants to love you so much but sometimes doesn't know how. What can you do. You need to set him a list of things he MUST do to keep the marriage intact for their to be a chance. Don't tell him that you are thinking about leaving anymore. He will panic and screw up. Give a list of things he MUST do. For example, he must go to marriage counseling, he must clean the whole house once a week, he must spend time with you and the kids, he must make you dinner, you fill in the blanks. DON'T SET A TIME LIMIT. Tell him when he can start doing this things you can start continuing with the marriage. Hold in your anger. Try to pray to have feelings for him again. Remember he is the father of your children. He loves you and the kids. Take things slowly. Emotionally detach from him until he starts doing these things even if it takes months. Don't give up. Try to show respect to him (this is what men desire and want). Women desire love.
