Getting started

[waw1978]

Thank you all for your kind words and advice. I came to the right place! I do want to work on my marriage and I still want to go to MC and now that DH finally got the msg I am sure that is my next step. Yes, I am angry that it took him this long to open his ears and I could easily go the “too little too late” route but thankfully I am still open to MC and we have an appt set up for this coming weekend.

I do feel strongly about needing my space right now and wish I knew how to make him understand that it’s a stepping stone to healing for me (us), not the death knell on our marriage. I really think this is the only way I can overcome the annoyance and dislike I feel in his presence. Until I can at least feel neutral towards him I am not sure anything he does or changes he makes is going to make a big difference. We didn’t get to this point overnight, it took years. Realistically it will probably take quite a while to recover. DH is a quick fix type of person and I have this looming feeling that he assumes that one or two MC sessions and we are going to be in the clear.

Any wisdom on how I can convince him that having my space right now will be worth while? I can barely stand being around him. I do sacrifice how I feel because we have a DD 4 and I want to spend family time with her regardless of how much I might be annoyed with him.