How do I know if we're ready for piecing?

[NikB]

I saw that Dana ("galing") did something like this awhile back. Her H wasn't willing to do any of the things on her list so it kind of backfired, but I do think it's a good idea overall.

One thing I remember that was really important was that they exchanged lists of "things you can do to make me feel loved" (basically). But they weren't REQUIRED to do them - they could do them if they wanted to show the other person love. I thought that was a good idea.

I like the idea of finding things to keep you out of the same patterns. It's wayyyy too easy to fall back into them.