NikkiB - thanks for the advice. You are totally right. I just read through some of your threads and already found lots of good, specific examples of this... I'll be following you form now on.
I need to figure out what my boundaries are with OW. Probably just honesty at this point. I think it would push him away to demand no contact. And I need to keep GALing. Maybe more.
I'm also thinking about requesting that he do the following exercise with me:
We each make a list of 10 things that we'd like our spouse to do for us or with us. Has to be something new (or something that we haven't done in a long time). Then we each look at the others list, and it's our responsibility to make at least 2 of the things on the list happen in the next week. Too pushy? I'm thinking it will prevent us from just falling back into the same patterns. It also will help us communicate about needs/wants.
Me 41 H 42 M 11 years no children Bomb: 10/2006 "I'm better without you than with you." Separated: 12/2006 H moved back: 6/2007
