I find it interesting to hear from the other side. The things you are saying and going through sound like my W. A couple of years ago she asked for a S, I begged and pleaded and convinced her to stay. The changes I made were only temporary and now I am at the point I am now. Unfortunately I see the sitch in a completely different light now. As a friend who is also a marriage counsler, describes my awakening as an epiphany. I am much more motivated to examine myself and change the things that have been wrong in the M. I will continue to work on those things. Because of the past broken promises to change she is not as willing to work with those changes. I also see it as a 2 way street, things I have done wrong and she has done as well. Before I was only willing to say the problems are things because of her, and she needs to work on them. But now I see it as I can only work on the things I need to change.
I guess you are at the point, as is my W., where you want to know if the promised changes are for real or not?
My W. has asked for the time and space, and I have found it very difficult to do, although I am improving at that. I think the WAS can be at a different level of detachment from the LBS. The WAS has gone through years of detachment, unseen by the LBS. And now the LBS, is forced to start detaching.
Hope that helps and good luck
Me: 41 W: 38 Son7 M 13 years 3/07 Bomb "This marriage isn't working for me anymore" S 5/26/07 Thread
