It sounds like you are building an M in which you cannot be authentic with H. Why aren't you working on this together as partners?
Sad to say but I think the honest answer here is, neither of us knows how.
I'm not using this as an excuse, but just as background - his parents have both been married and D'd numerous times. Their "R skills" consist of "When it gets bad, bail out." My parents were married 27 years and their approach was more "Mom never says a word or expresses any unhappiness, Dad's unhappy all the time and it's all Mom's fault."
So yeah, we need to learn, but right now it feels about like I'm trying to speak Greek without taking any classes...
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
