Do you like being you? Do you remember many moons ago when you met your Husband? I bet you were yourself back then. I bet you put your best foot forwards and I am also willing to bet you were strong and independant and vibrant and fun to be around.
When our Spouses do these things to us we have 2 choices. We can ether get sucked into their drama, or we can lovingly detach from the situation and get on with our lives.
The second choice is much harder but it can be done. Now I see you are looking into resources concerning alcoholism. This is his problem Ali, not yours. Yes it does affect you, but only as much as you let it.
Personally, (and please don't yell at me) the whole co-dependant thing is far too draining and far too much time is wasted on trying to understand and help. When a person has a drug dependancey they need to get help. You can be a support but you are not the person who needs to fix or solve the problem.
May I make a suggestion. At night, turn off your cell phone. This is your time to sleep. You are not on call 24/7 for anyone, except God.
YOU are the prize in this relationship, NOT your Husband. You are the one who needs to be pursued. You are the one that needs to be treasured and cherished.
You have come to far to be treated as second best and it is time for you to show that in your actions and how you carry yourself. You can do this without saying a word. This means sticking to your boundaries.
I know you can do this.
(((((hugs)))))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
