You may want to make it clear to Mrs. Choc. that if things do go the D route, that you are only willing to pay for her hair cut up to and until the papers are signed.
And just to bring home the financial sting, if you want... you could print out what your monthly outflow is... put it in the... "here, this might help you start planning your new life..." I'm sure your W has not even considered costs like car insurance, health insurance, medical co-pays, oil changes, all the little 'repair' costs in life that always crop up... and you may want to tell her that even IF she gets alimony, it won't last forever (unless it does in your state).
I would definitely seek legal advice ASAP, and find out what the laws are in your state. I live in a 'no fault,' state, so regardless of the reason for the demise of the M, marital assests/debts are split 50/50. Alimony is determined by the discrepancy of income... how 'long' the alimony lasts is determined by the judge. Custody is almost always shared. Blatant abuse must be present in order for one parent to get full-custody.
