I want to apologize to you all for losing my mind for a bit and looking like I can be rattled so easily. I actually am very well. I do realize that this is on him,, but then I thought well it is on him but he seems to be oblivious and it made me so angry. How many times do I turn my cheek? And actually I did lose it some,, how can he keep stepping on my pride ? HMMMMMMMMM as many times as I ALLOW thats how many times. It did feel better to let put all my thoughts HERE crazy as they seemed. AND WERE!? BOUNDARIES, BOUNDARIES..... I think I can, I think I can. One day at a time. It will be a challenge but I need to do it for me and it will be far easier than being someone I am not ! FOR A LOOOOOONG time I was getting stronger and yet still treading very carefully on those darn eggshells. afraid to break one and allowing him to act like a very spoiled child with me and go off whenever he pleased. So no I cannot change him I may just change how I react to him. Thanks you all you help me so , so much. God bless you all...