I did not expect a visit from H tonight. When the girls and I were about to leave the restaurant I noticed I had two missed called from him and he was early? I returned his call and he asked where his girls where at I told him we were about to leave and when he got on the phone w/ D10 he asked her too where we were at?? Hmm don't beleive me?? When i asked him where he was at I had a feeling he was home (our home) & he wouldn't say?? Does he think I would not come home if I knew? Anywho, as he talked w/ the D10 he was asking alot of question after she said she spend the night at her freinds ( it sounded like he was checking on me). Later I asked what daddy said & he was checking on me! He asked her if she wasn't home where were the other two girs and if mommy went out... She also said this wednesday her sis D7 was spending the night at their cousins & H asked why and if I was going out. Hmm he sure is asking alot of questions... the girls also asked him wheree he ws at & he wouldn't say... he' home I thought
Oh reminds me of our IM when he was in Ecuador I don't know if I mentioned it but when h asked about my upcoming "honeymoon" get away this weekend and I told him that he said he did not care and why ask.. well he admitted "I obviously care"!
By the time we arrived home ther H sat inside his car in the driveway... just as I thought. I could tell he had missed the girls just as much they missed him. After he kissed the girls he gave me a kiss on the forehead. said he was about to leave when we caem inside we say the gifts he brougth back they were laying on the bed, a shirt written in spanish from Ecuador along w/ a note attached to w/ each name and I love misss you . H pointed my gift that was on the bedroom dresser it was a real? pearl necklace earring, bracelet set he said pearls picked from over there. Without thinking (really) I was kinda taken back b/c I didnot expect anyhting I jumped and turn around and gave him a quick peck on the lips. I surprised him and took a quick look at the girls and said something smart ooo.. then I noticed what I had done and a afew minute later I told him to forgive me that was an automatic reaction & I did w/out thinking. H then gave me the bird???? I's ok you dont have to try and hurt me??? I was not trying to but since you reacted the way you did... UGH!! Cant seem to do anything right.... After my brain demons tried to get me down by wondering if she got a pearl set too or something better... Need to STOP!!
H said he was coming by tomorrow for D6 bday to take them out to dinner. After he gave his goodbye kisses to them he came to me and gave me kisses European style 2 kisses on each check. H said thats how they kiss hello and goodbye even if they just met you over there. He said he was in heaven w/ all the women kissing im all the time.
I was kinda glad and was hoping h would come by w/ us gone and GALing even if it w/ the girls. I was getting tired of always being home when he would show up.
I hope he noticed I had rearranged things in our bathroom. I put away all his things under the sink. H has not lived here for two months and why should I leave his toothbrush there when I sure could use the space?
All in all another good night good last interaction!! I kept my PMA and I modeled his gift and assked what he thought. Smiles... thank you guys!! & thank you God!!
Hi Chicki.. thanks for the reply on my thread. I really am not as "OFF" as I sound in my RECENT posts... .... my H has had a history of cheating and had OW and still has her name Tattooed above his heart. I am over that and then when this "new" thing happened. Which I have no way of confirming ,but I will be fine. I do believe I just lost it. I will be fine and I just need to get back to me and hope that God will help him cause Lord knows I cannot. Thanks for your reply and I will keep you in my prayers. God bless....
My life has been insane. I will send you an email.
Alimari, wow I am very impressed you got over your H's tattoo.
Last time me and my H split 8 years ago, he told me if I tattooed his name on me he would come back. Well I was only 20 and I did it. Later on though I went to visit my grandmother in Germany and he went out and had my name tattooed on him as a surprise. I was worried he would do something to it now since we are having issues. However, recently he had another tatto added and he made sure it didn't mess up my name even though there was OW.
Now I feel ok because with the new tattoo of his mother's maiden name it would look odd to do something to my name.
Thanks HS it took alot for me to get over it,,, he says he wil cover it soon . He has been saying that since last August. So imagine if I held my breath waiting and hoping I would have passed out by now. So it means nothing to me or for him.
.... he told me it meant nothing last year before we even reconciled. She tattoed his name too and would send him picture mail of it ... I know it was her idea as a way for him to prove his love for her... DOUBLE she knows me and our love for one another he even told her I never wanted to leave ALI the pain just got to be too much.... I wish he never got it but I discovered it a Year ago Fathers Day and that is when I said "goodbye" to him after DBing for 6 weeks and told him to "be happy with her but to let me go , so I could heal......." I was a Lady thru my agony....
Slowly he came back to me... hasnt been easy. So maybe had he not got it he would have kept coming home and having his cake and eating it too. The Tattoo helped me to open my eyes and confirm OW and his cake eating came to a slow close. Take care you all ...this place makes the most important thing possible ~ getting back YOU!!!!!! God bless...
If i remember my first thread was in infedelity. Sorry dont lnow how to link. my last thread here under to sign or not to sign??Page 5 of 8 in the last 3 weeks?
Summary- M10yrs this year 3daugh 6,7 & 10 yrs discovered EA in 9/06 past coworker 2to 3yrs? PA last fall I kicked him out 2 to 3 months ago I signed his Dpapers at the same time & he willnot file
I admitted to him that I thought our number one promblem was our arguing and always pushing each others buttons. i realized I can only change things in me. I started making changes stoped reacting to his temper tantrums & let all slide right off. The domino effect was working really good & our arguments slowly diminished. I did not know other than his complaint of our arguing what else his complaints were. At one time he stopped staying out on the weekends and coming home late (i don't knowif htey had a fallen out) BUt then I found out she startrted by asking him to bring the girls on the weekends to diff. bday parties and so I started going dark and that back fired on me big time! I beleive h has self esteem issues do to his past R w/ his alcholic father who use to abuse him P& verbally evne thogu he was a tough/"bad" kid. H would not respect anyones authority and always (to this day) bad mouths people. He has a foul mouth and when angry does not care who he hurts. Once he was diagnosed w/ ?"imature personality disorder"? whle he was in the military and was put for a weekend in a military pyche ward due to depression b/c he had done soemthing and for punishment they suspended his pay. My H is hispanic and a true"macho" in every way. He still thinks I will "give it up" to this day. Last night he tried and I turned him down. This is getting easier to do.
He has "broken" down when he thought I was dating or "done" w/ him. He expreses remorse and admits he made this mess and he knows he must fix it but is sooooo confused.
The Ow is suppose to be moving to another place (apt) closer to us & he states he will not move in w/ her but does not know what he will do.
Oh reminds me of our IM when he was in Ecuador I don't know if I mentioned it but when h asked about my upcoming "honeymoon" get away this weekend and I told him that he said he did not care and why ask.. well he admitted "I obviously care"!
Oh I just have to say something about this. I am not so sure he cares. It may be more about control than caring. If he really cared he wouldn't be with OW. He just can't stand the thought of you being with someone else, not that you would, even though he is doing it. It is all about control.
Me 45 WAW 46 Married 23yrs D22 S18 D12 W moved out 1/12/07 Divorce Final 2/06/08
I am over that and then when this "new" thing happened. Which I have no way of confirming ,but I will be fine. I do believe I just lost it. I will be fine and I just need to get back to me and hope that God will help him cause Lord knows I cannot. Thanks for your reply and I will keep you in my prayers.
