Yes, Lisa, it is confusing. I'm not sure where you got the idea that we think your H can change. Anyone can change. And I have no problem with you offering your H suggestions for a therapist.
Don't let your confusion make up or mind. Don't let confusion allow you to do something you will regret. And you of all people here are entitled to be confused. A baby less than 2 months old. 4 boys ages 12 and under. That could be enough even for the strongest of people and marriages.
