I totally understand where you are coming from my H had an affair with a coworker, and there had even been talk of marriage. I do believe that she had been the instigator, my h had very little experiance with women, and I did know her, and had been out with her, and she was always on the prowl even though she was also married. I can't say its easy getting past this, because its not, but it can be done! With each day that passes she becomes less of an issue, I am not so focused on her, because as others have said then she would still be in control, and I wount give her that! So you have to work at not focusing on her, everytime one of those thoughts comes into your head you have to conciously replace it with another better thought, and slowly it will become less and less of an issue.
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!
