Thank you so much for all this. It helps me keep things in perspective as I am sometimes utterly baffled by the varying turn of events. My goal is to continue doing what I have been doing, simply because it is the first thing I've done in quite a while that seems to be having and effect. Not much, but at least the drama has ceased, and that big in itself. Just today, I had to brief interactions with her (less than one minute) about the kids and about a small business matter. For the first time in over a month, my wife spoke to me with scorn or contempt in her voice. Not nice so much, but neutral, which is a welcome change. I'll take what I can get. A small step? I don't know about that so much, but at least I can say it is in someway a positive.
I'm torn about the kid stuff though, but we've all been through it. My hope is that if I remain strong in my not letting her get to me in any way, she will stop letting the kids be her messenger. I don't know what it will take for my wife to come around, and maybe she never will, but I'm not ready to give up. My kids deserve me to be strong and make my Stand for our family. I will most likely endure a lot of pain, but isn't that what we do for our kids if necessary? Maybe when all is said and done, we will end up with the marriage we wanted in the first place, I just hope my wife doesn't do too much damage in the meantime.
Thanks again for sharing this with me. DNQ
Me: 39 WAW: 40 S10, D7, S6 Bomb #1 - 12-24-06: Move out (ILYBNILWY - admitted '05 PA) Move back: 3-2-07 (W: I still want to be married to you) Bomb # 2 - 4-11-07: (W: Can't do this - never loved you) Move out again: 4-29-07 Dark: 6-8-07
