how awesome Nikki! Sounds like we're both a little perked up now! Sometimes it's just okay to be sad, mad, upset, whatever. It's an emotion and God gave us all kinds of them! So we should get to use them all sometime ;\) If we never knew what it felt like to hurt, we couldn't ever appreciate feeling really good.

I really don't know for sure if your H isn't reacting to praise in the right way. But I do remember you saying he discredited you once when you did praise him.

AND!!!! that is wonderful that you have figured out what is going wrong. From your post, I really think you hit the nail on the head, about having friends. Although I wouldn't think it was such a big deal, but your H is BIG on friends. So why wouldn't that be important to him for you to have friends. He must just be one of those guys that like to hang around people a lot. My sister's H is like that, although to the extreme of them never being alone.

Definitely find a medium on the group things. You obviously know you need to get that part of your life going again. That is good that H said "and she can come with us to movies.." Because he wants to be included with your friend-life.

you have a good night and I'm very glad you've had such a productive/educated day! \:\)

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."