Letting go and going with the flow

[bravagal]

Hi Half,

Thanks so much for dropping by!!

I dont have kids so I cant begin to imagine what you are going through.

I can only speak for what I have seen in my H these last 2 years and even before he left. If he could have done differently I know now he would have. I am not excusing what he has done. i also believe that the true place to work through issues such as his is within a marriage. That said, I am getting to a point of accepting better what is and taking it from there.

My H knows he is "slumming" but obviously his friends and his life are giving him something he needs right now. Will they sustain him long term? heck no. I think he knows that actually.
I just keep reminding myself not to take it personally.

As for the "duhs" of our role in creating some of the issues in the marriage.. .yup we did, but then again we did not do those things or act that way to hurt our Hs or our marriages... we did them to protect ourselves, we did them out of fear, we did them based on beliefs we had (that perhaps in hindsight did not serve us as well as expected). We did what we knew how to do at that point and time in our life.

The good news is we are becoming more self aware and we can do things differently in the future and even RIGHT NOW.

These are just my musings , I dont know your sitch (will have to go read your thread! ) so if I am a bit long winded I apologize. THese are things I am just starting to accept myself so it helps me to "talk" about them.

Hey, feel free to hangout here any time!

brava