From SD. . .even if sub-consiously. He (and she) are so damned scared to give it another try because they are convinced that the sitch will go back to the way it was pre-bomb when they were so unhappy with their lives.
YES!!! Very well put, and exactly whta I think and - interestingly - even what H has SAID on more than 1 occasion -- that he doesn't TRUST me w/his heart anymore; he's AFRAID to try again b/c he's CAN'T go thru this again; he hurt for too long & too bad to think about even the POSSIBILITY of being there again.
Yeah, I know the money issues are the (very strong btw) props supporting H's anger - which (anger), not only is a powerful distraction & allows H's mind/heart to stay off thoughts of [anything else regarding me/M/R] but which, H believes, will carry him smoothly along to D-island w/the least amount of stress to himself.
Sunny, one of the things I've recently started praying at night is that God help me to get out of His way - regarding H and my R w/H - so your comment about 'excellent job of allowing him [H] to get there [to the surface] by stepping to the side' hit quite close. Thanks. I'm trying.
Thanks, all, for your words & wisdom.
Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.
Me: 45 - WAH: 36 S8; D6 M: 11 yrs 07/06 Initial Bomb 10/06; D Bomb 11/06 - DBing begun 1/5/07 - H moved out 03/16/07 To date: No papers filed; H not seen a L; trying to convince me to MUTUALLY file for D
