They talk to her, too. It's just that they sense less willingness to work on it from her than from me. At first, I was fighting like hell for the marriage, but after 31 days and five repeated requests for "NO CONTACT" from my wife went stubbornly refused, I did back away, and told them so. I told them I still held out hope, but that I was no longer willing to actively pursue repair, and was not willing to go to MC, if she was still having an affair, and that that the ball was squarely in her court.
