I agree w/ SD. "The Money" is just a prop. Just read this in a book I p/u by John Grey ('Men are from Mars' guy);
"Rationalizing can cover up our feelings of remorse that allow us to self-correct. We may do something that hurts others, but by rationalizing we deny our soul's desire to be compassionate. We say to ourselves, "There was no other way to get what I needed," or "I shouldn't feel bad, I wasn't responsible."
My bet is that sooner or later Still, your H will have to surface out of his rationalizations. You're doing an excellent job of allowing him to get there by stepping to the side.
