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[SuperDad]

Stillme,
Ditto to everything said. $$ is the excuse, not the reason. I am convinced that a MLCer/WAS has one overriding motivator
the desire to remain in the coccoon of denial

This means-
* avoid decisive actions which will clearly show that they are responsible for any of this.
* try to manipulate the sitch to cause you to become ugly. This of course shows that they are not really the one to blame (in their reality anyway)
* use any excuse possible to justify what they are doing, other than to admit that they are delusional.

I am convinced that this is what your H is doing and I know it is what my W is doing, even if sub-consiously. He (and she) are so damned scared to give it another try because they are convinced that the sitch will go back to the way it was pre-bomb when they were so unhappy with their lives.

You prolly (LOL) know this already, but sometimes reinforcement helps!

(((Stillme)))

SD