Letting Go of My WAW

[SuperDad]

Journaling:
Well, it was another day in paradise!

I followed my routine like nothing had changed. Went to workout in the a.m., come home for b'fast, put out garbage, got ready for work, said goodbye to the kids with hugs and ILY for them, just a curt goodbye for W. The day went by with no communication from W until I was driving home and she called to say that she was at BFFs house making dinner for our families and for a friend who broke her foot. We ate dinner as a family and then I took kids for ice cream. This was supposed to be F. Day event, but we ran out of time and space in our bellies! We then got kids ready for bed and I read to S8.

When I came out of his room, W was watching TV. I did a few chores and then sat down next to her:
SD: Did you talk to the school district today?
W: Yes, I did.
SD: What did you tell them?
W: That I was not going to take the job.
SD: (slight pause) I know that was not easy for you to do.
W: No it wasn't
SD: I appreciate how much you love the kids and that you are making them the first priority. I love them very much too. I am not sure what is going to happen next, but I know that if we make them a priority that it will turn out OK.

We then discussed plans for the summer, incl. family vacation to Texas, which we need to re-evaluation. W said that her dad is really not doing well and that she plans on traveling much more frequently back home in the future. I said that I had and still do agree to this. I avoided any more talk of future and refocused back on the near term of traveling to TX, got her input and told her I would send her an email with some ideas tomorrow after I had time to look into my work schedule.

All in all, a great baby step forward! My family will be in the same city for the next year!!! Ya-hooooooo!

On a less positive note: I noticed that she had a glass of wine before she left and surely some at BFFs house. Again, not a good sign that she is drinking more again esp. with my concern about depression. God I wish that I could just waive a wand and make all her troubles go away. I know, patience is everything.

SD



(I also noticed that she had a glass of wine before she left and surely some at BFFs house. Again, not a good sign that she is drinking more again esp. with my concern about depression)