Ped visit went fine. She said it seemed to be just a combination of a coughing fit and anxiety. He was breathing normally by the time she saw him, and she said his chest and lungs sounded fine. If it had been an asthma attack, there would have been some residual effects. As it turned out, H did the right thing w/ the shower. Dr said that cold humidity is better, but hot humidity is okay if no access to cold. S5 has a peanut allergy and had eczema when he was a baby, so there's always some concern about asthma with him.
I got home and called H on his gf's phone. That took something, I'll tell you. Thank goodness, he answered. He asked a bunch of questions and then kept repeating my answers, which was weird b/c he's never done that before. Whatever. He thanked me for calling.
On a funny note, I took S5 out for ice cream afterwards, and the store was just setting up. I asked if they were open yet, and this really cute manager/owner (?) said, "For you? Of course!" He was really, really hot and he was flirting with me and making jokes w/ S5. Then, we left and I asked S5 where he wanted to sit on the deck b/c that was what he had wanted to do. He said no, he wanted to go home. I asked him why he changed his mind, and he said, I just did. Then I said, I don't think you liked Mummy talking to that man. Do you think I should get a boyfriend?" He said, "Mummy!", sounding really annoyed. Hee hee ~ my little guy is jealous! So funny b/c he's not jealous of H's gf, but he doesn't want to share his Mummy, LOL! How Freudian!
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My S7 and D10 had "reactive airway disease". When S7 was around 5 we were at Disney World and he got croup. Poor thing, in the bathroom with the shower running he went. I had to find an urgent care place and luckily I had an inhaler with me too, just in case. He has pretty much outgrown it, but he has allergies and had eczema as a baby too. Hopefully, your S will outgrow it in a few years too. (When I was a child, I had croup on Christmas Eve when I was 4 and had to spend the night in the hospital. It was the year I got my Barbie Dream House.) It was sweet to take your S5 out for ice cream. What a good mummy you are!
I think these men don't want to have a land line because then we would know where they are. My H just bought a cr@ppy phone that you can't hear him on and is constantly dropping calls. Half the time he forgets to recharge it.
Me45 H45 D13 S10 together-23 years married-21 years MLC Divorced 10/3/07 Married to a wonderful new man.
I think these men don't want to have a land line because then we would know where they are. My H just bought a cr@ppy phone that you can't hear him on and is constantly dropping calls. Half the time he forgets to recharge it.
I think so too. He had to give me his gf's phone # today, and he was NOT happy about it. He offered to, but he souneded very hesitant and wrote it down really slowly! But of course, he gave me her cell. I absolutely think he doesn't want me to know where he is. He claims it's cheaper than a landline, but I don't believe him. And then, like yours, he keeps forgetting to charge it, so even if there's an emergency, I can't call him.
Thanks for posting.
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He took the ow with the kids to visit his parents on Father's Day. These are the people who supposedly thought he was making a huge mistake (although they didn't say anything), and who pray everyday that we'll get back togther. Nice.
What is wrong with these people?? If my son ever, EVER did this to his wife and kids, he would get an earful, let me tell you.
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Ahhh Nicola ~ It is rough. Most importantly I am glad your s5 is ok. As for your h you hit the nail on the head with how selfish he is. Try not to give him another thought. He doesn't deserve it. Concentrate on you and what a wonderful Mommy you are!
Much love
Christy M: 31 H: 33 Married ~ 13 years S12 S8 Bomb 10/05 supposedly ended A 2nd bomb 12/30/05 Separated 01/06 I filed 6/12/07 ~ new ow 3wks after moving out http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1094955&page=0#Post1094955
I hear ya! I am in the same boat. My H took the kids to MIL's for Father's Day. What kind of example are they setting for our kids? I think my MIL has gone nuts too! She also wanted me and H back together so badly and told me that Ow was a "bimbo". Now she entertains her in front of our kids!!! Give me a break... It's very hard to swallow... and very hurtful to feel like you have been replaced.
These are the emotional oscillations I was refering to. It tests your resolve continually. One day you are fantastic, the next, we are reminded of the selfishness and the lack of consequence or seeming lack of consequence to our former spouses.
You've found a path to happiness within you, keep following that path to get over the rough spots. They will happen, just another part of the program.
The good part of this is, as a DBer, you have all of the necessary tools at your disposal to focus on you and keep moving forward.
Nicola, Sorry you're having a down day. I know what that's like and just becuz we are going to be D doesn't mean that we won't still be having down days. We are not ready to D our Hs emotionally even though we will be legally.
I'm glad to hear your son is doing better; brings back memories of S21 and his bouts of croup. Your son will outgrow it too.
Don't let the thoughts of anything happening to your kids while they are not with you occupy your mind. If you start thinking that way, you won't ever let them out of your sight. Know that God is watching over them; you need to have faith.
I also agree with you that our WAS would rather we don't know where they are; my STBXH won't even tell me where he lives although I figure he's now living within 5 min. car ride from my house.
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He took the ow with the kids to visit his parents on Father's Day. These are the people who supposedly thought he was making a huge mistake (although they didn't say anything), and who pray everyday that we'll get back togther.
Just becuz H brought gf to his parents house doesn't mean that they accept her. They are probably still praying for the two of you to get back together but whether that happens or not may be up to you. Remember that even if H decides that he made a mistake, he now has to ask you whether you would want to try.
No matter how bad things may seem right now, you will pick yourself up each down you fall and will move forward because God will give you the strength you need to take care of yourself. Your H may be entitled to more money that you originally anticipated but he will never take your integrity; something he's lost and will take a while to regain.
Hugs, ISLH
Me: 49 - S22 & S26 H: 41 - No kids M: 10/00 Bomb New Year's Day 2006 H living w OW 01/07; have baby 12/07 D final 07/07 Thread #9 - Hope Lives On
nic....ISLH always has great stuff. All I can say is...don't get close to the mistakes I made with the IL's. My MIL was totally supportive of me...now seems to have pulled back a bit. My Father's Day card was not signed 'Love' which I believe it was in the past. Bottom line: blood IS thicker than water. I have stopped any R convesation with them and now get separate cards for occasions as my W doesn't seem to keep me in the 'loop'.
Whatever happens, you cannot make any judgments about yourself based on what direction your IL's take. Stay the great mom you are..keep the respect you have for your IL's. Always stay the 'attractive woman' that you are in front of them.
As for the kids, I was stuck in traffice this morning because I had to give my S6 Motrin and a breathing treatment...you're not alone.
Stay tuff. I support you.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
