I think you are absolutely spot on and I want to forgive and move on - it's the how to I am not good at and where I need help. I have been back to see my psychiatrist and all he wants to do is medicate me! That doesnt make the problems go away; it just masks them.

What is the book ' After the Affair'?I have only recently come accross Michele and her ' The Divorce Remedy' book. It was the first time I found something that I have found truly helpful. I am just about to get to the anniversary of my H 'coming clean' and I am not coping well. All help and ideas, (legal), gratefully received.

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength