I am like you. I want to talk about issues. Fix them. That was for months ago, I'm learning. My husband tells me straight up that talking about this is making it worse. So I must wait, its the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
If and when he ever recommits, the talking will come then, if I'm still in a place I want to work on it.
Hopeless,
Let's just do whats best for us. If "dating" helps us to get through this phase, and to DB more because we'll "care less" about what they're doing, then for now that's what I'm going to try. It doesn't mean I'll be out having sex, i'll just be spending time with men seeing how to relate, etc. I have another ten months at least before my divorce can be final. At times, I feel like my hubby plans to wait until the 11th hour, just to buy himself as much time as he can. Maybe that's wishful thinking - maybe he's never coming back. Only God knows.
