Letting Go of My WAW

[Nomopo]

All true. But I believe there are some posts earlier about the choices SD made about how to approach this separation, and he consciously chose not to get "ugly." (Let me know if I am confusing threads.) Setting boundaries for what really matters is not getting ugly per se, but p-ulling back the financial help he has offered previously her (reneging on that agreement, making her feel threatened and vulnerable) will likely turn things to a more volatile state.

SD just got one of the most positive things I've heard in a while in his effort to reach his ultimate goal - his WAW is struggling with leaving him to move to Texas, and had said she wasn't going to do it. Correct me if I am wrong SD, but isn't that part of what you want - her to stay in FL (and to keep your kids here)? I'm not saying everything is better now or even that you are on the road to fixing/saving your M, necessarily. I'm just saying you got a great development, and your next step can nurture that development or shut it down. The next step isn't obvious to me, but drawing a boundary where one isn't needed/warranted may not get you closer to your ultimate goal. Keep thinking about it.