Aud,
I really think you have hit a good stretch of Marital highway on this! (definitely deserve it!) When your spouse wants to stay home then that is more than a good sign. I certainly understand your fears and also believe that it took a lot of trust on his part to tell you about when he spoke with OW and again you deserve and earned it.
All those bricks you laid down months ago are really making for a foundation to build your M back up on. I am really impressed and happy for you! I'm sorry that I seem like I am spewing sooo much praise but I really look up to you and how you have handled your sitch...peace