My marriage is hopeless IV

[Hope_11]

So, I assume (ikes!) many of you will judge, but I am starting to consider dating. I just don't see why not. My husband is actively giving up everything (me, seeing kids every day, our home is for sale, all our friends, etc) for this affair and he continues it everyday. I have to expect the worst and hope for the best, but that could be a very long time. I just don't know what to do.

I feel exactly the same way. I am starting to consider dating. My h has been involved with ow for eight months and is actually living with her. I told my mil that I need the divorce so I can move on with my life. She said why do you need those papers just move on with your life now. Date if you want. Don't let him hold you back, but let the divorce go for right now. So in other words my mil is telling me to go ahead and be unfaithful to her son, but don't divorce him yet.

I say this "i can understand my H having an affair, I can even forgive and learn from it." But how do you forgive the continuation of this at the expense of everyone you love? This continuation of the A just sometimes seems too much to forgive. Does anyone else feel this way? Am I just supposed to wait until she dumps my H and then hope he'll take me back? Well, I'm sorry - I think I deserve better.

I feel the exact same way. Like I said my h has been having an affair for 8 months. He told me 7 months ago, so he has been having this affair right under my nose. I am really starting to think that it is too much to forgive. The longer mine drags out the more lies I find out about and the harder it is for me to trust him. I have been waiting for ow to dump my h for months but her comment was "I have more to gain than lose if I get to keep you in the end". I think she forgot to mention that she doesn't care how many lives she destroys on the way. She's going to hold on until my m is over and then she is going to take my h for a ride.