I still reckon you should try to detach more. You are in a perfect position to do this. It seems that your wife is still in the stage my W was around Feb.
If I knew then what I know now I would have detached and given her space. I know we would be together now (but I didn't and things are much worse now).
I know how hard it is but you are still there for her, and she knows it. If it is anything like my sitch, it will get worse and your W will withdraw further.
You have to make her miss you, and detaching/GALing will give her the opportunity and space to realise what she is doing. At the moment she does not have that space.
It will get better for you buddy.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
