You deserve half. It's legal and there's very little he can do about it. The business is 49% in your name -- duh!!! You may not get the house. The court may force a sale and you'll have to downscale. If you got the house, could your teacher's salary pay for the bills?
Get a good lawyer. Don't make it a bloodbath. Mediation with lawyers checking things out is often the best route.
Divorce financially hurts. It will hurt him, too. That's life.
Be careful, Yoyo. I think, perhaps helping your daughters not "chase" him would help. They are free to express themselves, but don't, in a small way, derive any vicarious joy from their rage at him.
If you need to rage at him, then you do it.
Yes, he says that he'll take care of daughters. Maybe he thinks he will. In actuality, he'll take care of her kids. If he lives with her, then he'll functionally be the father to her children. That the ugly thing about blended families. It's just a shuffling of parents: you daughters lose their father, her children gain one. I'm being raw and cynical about it, but that's the rub. Say what you will, he's divorcing your children as well. It really sucks. It always has. There's no civilized, "self-actualized, loving way of doing this.
The best you can do is protect your own and your daughters' financial interests
I am going to pray you don't give in to bitterness. The next stage for you might very well end up being heavy anger, bitterness and judgement. That helps you detatch.
You know, it never ceases to amaze me how often this happens to Christians on these boards. It's really jaded me. Was your husband a Christian, too?
This has caused a crisis of faith for me. Rather, it's grown me in ways I didn't want to. I've never had such pain, sin and broken-ness come this close to me before.
