First comment...why is that we LBS dads look like loving handsome men in the pix?
That is because we are...We cannot help it, it just comes naturally to us .
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Have you ever seen an 'amicable' D? Well..at least without SOME conflict? Forget it.
That is why I hired the best L that I could find. According to my L(who knows my W L) once my W L is done with her she is going to try and get more then half of everything. Her tune has already changed a lot since she has seen her L, I anticipate that is going to keep on happening.
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Also...in the beginning of my sitch, my W wanted me to cosign a loan for over $100K to buy a salon. Right. I also got the 'everything is in your name and I have nothing'. Try and keep all decisions FINANCIAL and not tied to emotional/marital things. My line was "this is not safe for either of us financially right now" (inside, I wanted to say...OK..come back to the M and I'll sign. Thank goodness I never said that.)
Why is it that we on the inside still want to help and meet the needs of our W's? Everytime my W needs or wants something I on the inside want to run around and make whatever it is happen. For example, yesterday when my W told me she needed help filling out some of the D financial paperwork, part of me wanted to tell her that she could have a copy of mine when I got through filling it out. I know better not to say or do that, but I wanted to do this for her. I was also at one time thinking of giving her money so she can go get a place of her own.....That is not going to happen now. But again it shows that we even through this sitch want to love and support our S's in anyway that they will allow us to.
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Going back to the ER doc thing. I'm sure you know the percentages on that R. Stay the course. Do JUST as you are doing. Steady....listen....etc. Don't fret about the time complaints. She needs to blame you for something. SPEW.
She needs to blame me for something and she does....It gets tiring being blamed all the time. Do you think this wears on them as much as it does on us?
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Your little girls will choose a man based on YOU. Don't let you W deter you from being that man.....don't let guilt anger or resentment affect YOU and taint them. Just be you...the great dad that you are.
Thanks for this reminder. I really hope that because of my R with my girls that they truely know what they are looking for in their H when the time comes. The way I see it is that the greater Dad that I am to them Greater man they will one day end up with.
Last week while buying the NUTS book "What a difference a Daddy makes" caught my attention. At that time I added it to the list in my head of books to read. Maybe I need to bump it up a few nothches on that list. I have read more then enough about infidelity and relationships for a lifetime of reading on the subject. I think focusing my reading on myself and my DD's is the way to go.
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