I know that everyone says that you are not supposed to discuss A and OP but it is so hard. I tend to agree with you. MC can't help if your w is still involved with OM, and if your instincts tell you she still is, it's probably true. My h has told me multiple times that it was over with ow. It's not over. I can tell by the way he reacts with me, how his relationship is going with ow. If it is going bad, he is much better with me. Maybe that happens in your sitch too.
My h never verbalized his unhappiness to me either (but he has been unhappy for years, I must have been living under the same rock as you). Our spouse's are re-writing history. They weren't that unhappy. They just have to say that they were to justify ruining their entire life for the OP. My h actually told me one time that he was unhappy and he shouldn't have to tell me why, I should have just known. The ow understands him. I didn't know that I was supposed to be a mind reader, I guess ow is. Sounds like our spouse's are a lot alike.
I don't know if you checked out my thread. I told my h yesterday that it was over. At this point, I feel like if the ow is so great, why doesn't he just let me the h$ll alone so I can move on and find a great guy that really cares about me. He has been with ow for 8 months. He left me and his entire life for her. Looks like he made his decision and now he is going to have to live with it.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
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