I too have heard from others that no your W is not a good mom, she is just good with your girls. Our S's are to self absorbed rightnow to be good parents. As much as my W trys to not make this sitch about her - it is. She was never able to verbalize to me that she was unhappy during our M, she always said the exact opposite....now she is saying that she was never happy at all. The way she rationalizes the past is that over the years she had to convince herself that she was happy and in love with me. If that was true wouldn't you think that she would of had us in counseling together years ago? If I was that unhappy as my W states she is now I would have done whatever I could to correct whatever the issue is/was. But that is me, not her. The vows I took actually mean something to me.(I guess I am a little bitter.)
No, unfortunately my W has not woken up.. That hopefully is the case for saddadinkc.
I am doing good. I had my girls all day yesterday, we had a goodtime together. Today I probably will not see my girls until late tonight. My W and I are going to our 2nd couseling session together. Again it will be interesting to see what happens. My hope for today is to get my W to commit to me going again next week with her. I am keeping my fingers crossed, but also keeping my expectations low.
Question for everyone: How do I tell my W and her counselor that I feel the A is still taking place? I haven't mentioned anything about the A lately and do not want say anything that will set my W off. But at the sametime how can counseling help when she has this tie to the OM. If the opportunity comes up in conversation I was thinking of saying that I feel the A is still ongoing. And I feel this way because I never have seen my W grieve the loss of that R. There was one day when she felt that the A was truely over and she broken down in front of me. That has not happened since that day and the A continued long after that day. I would then let the couselor take it from there. Is this a bad idea?????
