Hey CL
Thanks for the pep talk. I am soo confused right now. I just don't know what I want anymore. If it was not for my son I would be ready to say "see ya later" to the W. When we first got back she was distant. Seemed to warm up a little as the day progressed. Yesterday not one Happy fathers day. Even the store clerk (who I don't even know) said it to me. The W did take my son out to get me something. Then we went to the cemetery to put flowers on my and her dad’s graves. (My suggestion something we have never did). Our daughters came with us. It was nice. Afterwards my daughters stayed at the house and I BBQ some burgers. It was nice outside so we ate them in the patio. My son and two daughters. The W stayed in the house. (Now she is on a diet, and was not going to eat burgers with us but to no sit with us. Or just came out and say.” I would sit with you guys but I don't want to be tempted". Nothing. Now I was a little emotional yesterday. I miss my dad so much. It has been over 20 years since he died but I wish he was here right now to help me with my sitch. Ya see I have no body to talk to. No one in the family knows about it. My W calls the OM and can lean on him> (I guess I have not looked at the phone records are a while, Andyv made me promise). But I have no one. I do believe if her family knew what was going on it would end one way or another sooner. But there is know way they can find out without me telling them. And I know that would really piss off the W. I almost called the OM the other day. I would threaten him NOT to tell my W I called or the Photo's would be sent to his home and work. But I fought the Urge.
I can not imagine what you are going through with your W sleeping elsewhere. But I almost wish my W would. At least I could get pissed at her have a reason not to care if she gets mad if I tell her family what she has done. But she wants to be room mates. I'm not in heaven or hell I’m stuck in purgatory.

Husband


And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know