Now that I went and posted on your thread like a " space cadette"... I was reading some of your thread , and actually went back to read further and although I do not know you at all ...

WHAT stuck out to me is that he wants to keep the business cause of your daughters ..... UTTER B**************LLLLLLLLLLL S***!!!!
If you have a lawyer make sure he helps you on that one for sure. I was Married before for 9.5 years to my high school "sweetheart" and to make a long story short. I was far too nice and he cheated me out of everything and his NEW Wife made my 2 boys suffer like you could not even fathom. I dont rememeber how old you said your children are but yes fight with tooth and nail for them cause when the New wife takes over like you said it can get really ugly.
Suffice to say my kids were with their Dad in the school year and me in the summer and when MY h and I went to pick up my boys they were emaciated and I am not even exagerating a bit. They said they used to get so hungry they would eat the dogs food and put honey on ice cubes... and she would eat frozen ice cream treats in front of them. To this day my boys will not speak to their Father.

So anyway your comment about when she takes over struck a cord with me. IT actually infuriated me and this for me is over 8 years old.... my boys Step mom was so like that and she hurt my children while he stood by and watched.

Dont put your claws away not even for one d*mn minute cause YOU have their best interest at heart and you deserve HALF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! whether he likes it or not.
I was too nice and didnt want to fight and I got screwed. Please !!!!!!!! do not let this happen to you.
Hope I helped some... this enrages me how men think w/ their D***S and the kids get so hurt in the process, your daughter is so brave. You sound like a fabulous Woman and Mother do not forget that and get ready to kick some a** cause he is most likely expecting you to agree with him cause you are kindhearted.. DO NOT LET HIM
Take care sweetie and all my best to you,, you will be in my prayers.
LOVE, Ali