Why is this like this?

[Nomopo]

Well, I don't think "I miss you" is the right way to break the darkness, but as I said before, I think darkness seems to be a little overrated around here, and people are too quick to try it. Others may disagree, but if you want to break the darkness, why not just break it by being upbeat, positive and friendly and saying "Hi, how's it going?" Or something like that? Go from your self-described total darkness to how you would treat a friend.

Didn't we exchange some posts not to long ago in which you were complaining about not having any contact with your W, and thus no chance to show her the new you and positive interactions? If so (I may be getting my threads mixed up), I guess I forgot in that exchange that YOU had imposed total darkness. If all of that is true, I guess you had expected her to break through your total darkness and seek out opportunities to connect with you.

Maybe it's time to re-evaluate your marriage-saving strategy. How long have you been dark? What kinds of reactions have you been getting? Do you think you have given the strategy long enough to work? If not, how much longer do you think you need? If it has been long enough, do the results warrant continuing the stratey or changing. (There you go. SSS, right?)

Nomopo