Well back from a day with the kids and part of day with my wife. The girls and I went to see Surf's Up, went to the park, played video games then we all went to dinner together. The girls planned a little special twist at dinner, they got my wife and I to sit next to each other. God bless their little souls they are trying to help us both. My wife and I chit chatted away and really I think we both enjoyed it. Once back to the house my wife needed to get the girls ready for the coming week and her trip to Europe. While helping her pick up D9's room I looked at her and asked her about love languages. I did apologize about having to ask but I told her that the sermon this morning really got that question running non-stop. She chuckled and told me go ahead and ask. So the answer to her love language dialects are acts of appreciation, words of love and acts of service that help her manage day to day. She wants someone who loves her and appreciates her but doesn't worship her.
So what was the sermon? It was all about love, God's love and how it's different than human love. God's love is completely unconditional. Human love is conditional. We need something first in order to love. That's what got me thinking about JR and my conversation about love languages and the specific dialects.
Well not long after we got finished with D9's room, my wife lied down on the bed while I sat next to her. I rolled over next to her and told her, how much I appreciated all that she had done with summer camps this year. It was unbelievable. She closed her eyes with a slight smile and I kissed the end of her nose and said, thank you, thank you very much. She didn't turn away, she didn't shy away, she just laid there right next to me.
As I was leaving several minutes later I told her thanks again. I then mentioned(once again to her) if she needs help that all she needs to do is ask. That I'd knock out the half dozen items I noticed and we had discussed earlier. Since I am not around it's hard to know what needs to be done. I then said maybe the way we start is her just asking and me just doing. She thought that was a good idea and would work on a little list for me this week while I am at the house.
Oh and I am giving her a ride to work tomorrow so she doesn't have to worry about airport parking. She really appreciated that!
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
