Rob #8 - Never Losin' Sight

[Rob1231]

Mystery is good as long as it's not a pawn in a game, KWIM? Don't think you'd do that, but there are others who would.

H doesn't know the specific site/strategy, but he does know I have a support group on the web that helped me tremendously. I never, never open this page when he's around and I always clear my history. I need this to be my place...especially since piecing seems to turn us into aliens ourselves. I think we need a place to process our thoughts and feelings.

Nah, no games. It's mostly like you say yourself - mystery born of the necessity of keeping this place private.

I hear you about W and the A. H is still funky about LW. He always seems to be surprised when/if I make mention of her. Like, he's thinking about leaving his job, and he asked me what I thought. I told him what I thought (he should, for reasons more than LW), but that I was hesitant to respond because I had ulterior motives. He asked, "What?" I think I looked at him like he was stupid...because LW is with me every day. But I guess it's good he couldn't figure it out b/c maybe then the b!tch isn't a part of his thinking? I don't know....

My guess about both of our spouses is that they don't spend much time on the OP. In W's case, I'll bet that she shuts him out as much as possible - a bad mistake she does not want to be reminded of. As far as your H's reaction - based on other stuff you've said, I would guess it's probably a case of lingering guilt over past screw ups that he's never forgiven himself for. Easiest for him to "act as if" he never even notices she's there in the office with him. Give him credit for trying to get out of there, that's a big move.

But anyway, I admire you for your patience and awareness. It's hard for me; I'm a very, very strong woman, very strong personality (a gift from my mother), so I have a hard time not laying it all out on the table, ready or not.

I kinda guessed you were a strong woman somehow. But thanks. As I say, it ain't always much fun being Mr. Patience, but it's worked for me so far.

You rock.

SD

You rock, too, SD - no question at all. YOU ROCK.