I don't know really only you can know if your hubby is keeping something from you but my EX GF is so crazy that when a guy was ready to leave her and she knew it she would call incessantly, make up pregnancy, if he would come to see her while trying to break it off she once admitted she called a girl he was interested in PRIVATE and let her listen while she ML to him. Now mind you the girl she called was not his Wife but who does sick stuff like this??? She would cry and make a scene that she had undying love for him and then go see someone else later. She even had me fooled that she was the victim for awhile and then when I saw who she really was I could no longer be her friend. She also told my H's friends of 8 years that he ( my H ) hit her once for wearing a MINI SKIRT in our home???? WTF??? Or that he had a Family in Mexico, or that he was with OW , ( NOT TRUE he called me three times a day etc etc)which is so not true scary thing all these comments got back to me and I had a severe panic attack that very nite,, so do not let her stupid letter hurt you.. I know easier said than done.

I put the rumors out of my head but I still heard it and it was already in my mind! But you can do it too!
Soooooooooooooooo maybe H is keeping things from you and maybe just maybe she is NUTS!!! Who walks up to someone’s HOME and leaves a LETTER,,, you are there too , this is your HOME! She is nuts sweetie and as hard as it is take a deep breath and a step back and little by little let her go. I held onto OW memory and pain for far too long ( TATTOO IN THE FACE HARD TO COMPLETELY FORGET) but now I am better and know In my heart that I am far better than her.
MY H even once "dared" me to call her I responded " I WILL DO NO SUCH THING , I AM ABOVE THAT!!!!" AND HE THEN SAID "she wont even care..." WTF? and I said " YOU KNOW MY OPINION OF HER HAS JUST GONE DOWN EVEN MORE , HOW SICK!!!"
another time when she kept calling I said " DOES SHE KNOW YOU ARE HOME?" NO REPLY ..

So I say " Well I am sure she does and it is quite one thing to keep trying to take you from me and quite another that she could care less that she is trying to take you from your children , how pathetic , what a *W*!!!!!!!!"

And I barely ever speak up like that to him but enough was enough.... They are low and have no integrity.. they could care less.... IT IS ALL ABOUT THEM.

So honey,, I am very sorry you found this but get stronger and remember she means nothing,, you two have history and he is home with you. Start there and talk to him and let him know how this makes you feel.
And yes for my H as well it is like ,,, oh it is no big deal ~
I FORGOT ALL ABOUT IT!!!!!!!
AND FOR US IT TAKES LONGER TO HEAL. You will heal and maybe if not now one day he will be ready to tell you the truth,, and also are you possibly making it out to be more than it was?

I told my H this once too, while separated, when I found out about her a year ago today actually.. "That is ok you can be with her she will never even be half the Woman I am and she will never love you the way I do.. but you seem to think otherwise."

I acted tough but inside I made their "love" grand well he did get a Tattoo!!! and when I would say you had a R with her he said it never really was that...???? are you serious? So sorry I started rambling again... Just step back listen to others advice here and do what you feel is right.... but do not carry this with you too long it will eat you alive~ BTDT....
All my best to you..
God bless....