It is good to hear that you got out for some fun together. It must be so hard to keep your head up with the tension, but you know how to do it--you just have to remember the "you" that you found! H came back because he saw that person for who she really is, and was attracted. I agree with CK that H may just be trying to get his old negative perseptions to move over to the reality, now. Even makes my head hurt...
There is a young boy at my school. We had pegged him as emotionally disturbed since he entered as a Kindergartener. Turns out that his mother told him repeatedly that he was stupid and the son of the devil. When he came to school, everyone kept telling him how smart he was, how good he was. The more we tried to reinforce him, the more he acted out. Seems that the inner picture of himself (influenced by his mother) was at such odds with what we were all telling him, that he couldn't make them match! It tore him apart for quite a while... scary what the mind can do.
