All right so far you have ASSUMED she did what SHE wanted to do. Might not be the case.
Either way, it was EXTREMELY rude and if you can manage to let her know you don't appreciate being asked to come up there for Father's Day and then getting left behind, without letting all the other stuff come up, then I say do so. She was disrespectful at the very least and cruelly deceptive at worst. Tell her (IF you can stick to that subject and do so respectfully).
As for the drinking...that's plain and simple: She is testing you.
And she's a dumbass for doing it this way if you ask me.
Just how ignorant IS SHE about recovery?
Because if it wasn't done out of sheer ignorance, she needs to have her ass kicked.
I'm sorry, but that just crawled right up on my last damn nerve when I read that she was drinking in front of you.
