Mystery is good as long as it's not a pawn in a game, KWIM? Don't think you'd do that, but there are others who would.
H doesn't know the specific site/strategy, but he does know I have a support group on the web that helped me tremendously. I never, never open this page when he's around and I always clear my history. I need this to be my place...especially since piecing seems to turn us into aliens ourselves. I think we need a place to process our thoughts and feelings.
I hear you about W and the A. H is still funky about LW. He always seems to be surprised when/if I make mention of her. Like, he's thinking about leaving his job, and he asked me what I thought. I told him what I thought (he should, for reasons more than LW), but that I was hesitant to respond because I had ulterior motives. He asked, "What?" I think I looked at him like he was stupid...because LW is with me every day. But I guess it's good he couldn't figure it out b/c maybe then the b!tch isn't a part of his thinking? I don't know....
But anyway, I admire you for your patience and awareness. It's hard for me; I'm a very, very strong woman, very strong personality (a gift from my mother), so I have a hard time not laying it all out on the table, ready or not.
You rock.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!