Oh Jen...no advice dear, just a ITOTALLYUNDERSTANDYOURFRUSTRATIONHANGINTHEREDRINKLOTSOFWINE/BEER/SHOOTERSUNTILHECATCHESUPWITHYOU.

I think this is our opportunity to see the sitch through our H's eyes when they were the WAS. I keeps us from demonizing them and gives us a sorely needed perspective. We're also more aware of how we're feeling and why because we have to be...and this little bomb for our H's also helps them do a little soul searching, see the sitch through our eyes.

I think this process is repeated throughout a marriage to a lesser degree. We want the fairy tale, but the fairy tale doesn't exist. Marriage is hard, hard work. Worth it? That still remains to be seen.

Hang in there sweetie. Sorry I've been an ostrich lately...just having a rough time as I navigate the end of the school year and my feelings about my H.

Wanna spend a couple weeks in Guatemala? I'm looking for a traveling partner....

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!