This is the piece I have been resisting: that this "Alien" in my H is part of who he is. I realize now it is. ... A person needs to be the perfectly human person that they are and still feel safe and accepted.
SO, this is an issue I had always had with myself: trying to be strong and perfect and together... afraid to show my "weak" soft side. THese 2 years have shown me that I can be perfectly imperfect and enjoy and accept that. From there I can gently create shifts in my life that I want. (without beating myself or any one else up in the process!)
brava, This seems to be a common theme lately, that the MLCer is really just showing a part of himself that was there all along. I find that because of this crisis I find myself to be less accepting of the imperfect sides to myself. I keep thinking "No wonder he left me, who would want someone who does ..." I know it is just the depression talking and that we all have those quirky sides to ourselves. I guess one issue though is the nature of that hidden side. These MLCers seem to be showing a very selfish side to themselves that causes so much destruction.
Me45 H45 D13 S10 together-23 years married-21 years MLC Divorced 10/3/07 Married to a wonderful new man.
