Letting Go of My WAW

[SuperDad]

I will journal later with the details, but a short synopsis of the past few days

* I made arrangements to go visit my parents in TX this coming weekend for some mutual support leading into the separation.

* W scheduled a plane flight to Austin to sign a contract to work as a teacher (at the school she used to work at)

* W and I had a 3 hr. session yesterday to work out a separation agreement, mostly business, but some R talk and also a discussion of how it could be if we stayed in FL. I put my boundary down at us living together while she had open A(s). Also said I was unwilling to move out of the house. She cried, but then said OK, then I am going.

* This morning, I was a bit slow from too much fun and too little sleeep last night and, while I am sitting at the breakfast table drinking my coffee, she spurts out "I am not going to take the job in Texas." She then started to cry and explained that she just could not bare to take the kids away from their dad.

* I was completely stunned and just tried to say very little other than to be supportive and say that it was important for the kids that both of us are happy and that I did not have a good solution for the sitch.

I feel that I am in a very precarious situation right now, but don't know what to do other than remain calm and lovingly detached from her internal turmoil and love my boys.

Anybody got a clue what to do?

Thanks, SD