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[BeingMe]

Give her space, is all I can say right now. She thinks she is right, and no matter how much you might've messed up in the M, she certainly contributed too. She just won't admit her failures now, because she's defensive.

Don't say anything about the fight. Try not to take the bait in future, but it's understandable if you do. Don't worry about being in between your FIL and your W's issues. You were invited so, you go. You don't have to do anything you don't or do want to do, just to keep the peace with her. Be there for your kids. I doubt if she can just leave with the children unless she has a really good excuse (abuse, etc) which she doesn't have. Sounds like she just wants you out, but paying for anything. If she really wanted to be independent, she would've found a job before letting you know she wanted out of the M. Anyway, why should you leave? She can leave on her own, and will then have the time to find a job.

Maybe one day you'll be able to reiterate with, "I don't want to be your H either." You're not there yet, it seems, but try and detach from her craziness, and keep trying to GAL, even if it's just to take up jogging, or some other hobby or activity that doesn't use a lot of money. Hang out with friends and family.

I think you should come up with a financial plan where she gets an allowance, and no more. How can she go spending money, and then also expect you to move out. Very selfish!

Take care and happy father's day!