"Some WAS's even think that God is leading them out of their marriages, so that they can be happy" Are you saying he's not? OMG!!!! That means W lied to me, hey, isn't lying immoral?
WII, of course, lying is immoral, unless you're going through MLC, then probably anything goes, 'eh! I tell ya, that is one crisis I would like to avoid having, meself. If I ever think that God is telling me to do something contrary to his word, please hit me with a 2x4 .... really hard.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I've got my "board of education" all lined up for you. On behalf of all us MLC spouses, I'm sure we have enough 2x4 lined up you could build a whole house.
Fathers Day went well, more positives, compared to last year. I look back at a year ago, then take note of how much has improved. Focus is a little off today, but I'm not in a bad mood. Perhaps it's just the grind of this DB process. Well, I guess I'll just have to fight on and see where things go.
Something really pertinent to our sitches, from DailyOM .
June 5, 2007
Promoting The Positive/Negative Pull
Sometimes we start out with the best intentions to think and speak only positive thoughts, but the people around us throw us off course. Not everyone fully understands the power our thoughts and words have, or even if they do, they may be stuck in old patterns of negativity. Much of our habitual communication takes the form of complaining and criticizing, and it can be hard to find a way into certain conversations without lapsing into those old habits. However, we always have the option not to participate in negativity or to find a way to influence the situation in a positive direction. In the right company, you may even be able to directly acknowledge the fact that things have taken a negative turn, thus freeing yourself and others from the negative pull.
Not everyone will respond to your cues, and there's no need to become overly attached to the idea of changing other people, because people have to choose for themselves how they will be in the world. Many people choose negativity because it is familiar to them and feels safe. It is important to give people the space to find their own way, but you can always set an example, subtly representing the power of being positive. At times you may interject an affirmative statement into the conversation, and at others you may simply change the subject. You may also simply withdraw your energy and presence, which also makes a subtle statement. If you feel comfortable enough with somebody that is always negative, perhaps you can have an honest conversation with them; after all, awareness is the first step to change.
A powerful way to free yourself from the negative pull is to enlist allies who are similarly minded. You and a friend, coworker, or family member may agree to work together to continually shift the energy in a situation in a positive direction. The power of two people working to promote the positive is exponentially greater than one person working on their own. As you and your allies work together to lift the energy around you, you will be amazed to see how quickly the positive pull begins to draw people into its orbit, freeing one mind after another from negativity into light.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I do like the rest of what you posted from there, so hoping to read whatever else is on that site too. Thanks for posting that!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
And here I thought you were trying to tell me something BeingMe. Have you had any luck with the footpads? I get very groggy in the mornings, so I thought something like that couldn't hurt. Of course then I have to figure out where on the foot I should put it. The challenges of life. I'm sure someone here will be glad to tell me where to put it.
Okay, Phoenix, I do realise you left that one wide open, so I'm not going to take the bait. Nuh uh! Not me! I am trying to be kind today. Hehehehehe!!!! No, really!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
No that was were to put it on the foot, not where to put the foot. Started to get a little panicked this morning, but over came it. I just wasn't going to go there. Not sure if it's a matter of being in a better place or just getting to a don't care state of mind. Just to busy trying to enjoy life that I'm not going to get caught up in that tunnel.
I tell ya, that is one crisis I would like to avoid having, meself. If I ever think that God is telling me to do something contrary to his word, please hit me with a 2x4 .... really hard. 
